When a marriage deteriorates to the point that divorce is inevitable, the stress and heartache involved can be profound. Agreeing on a division of assets and who will get custody of children can take a heavy toll on all the family, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Divorce mediation allows you and your spouse to take control of the situation by opening a direct line of communication between you both. With the help of an impartial third-party, you can resolve your disagreements amicably in order to limit the distress a break up can cause.
What issues are dealt with through divorce mediation?
Almost anything that is related to the dissolving of a marriage can be dealt with through mediation. The division of assets and property is often the most complex issue to resolve, but couples with children will also be able to discuss matters relating to maintenance payments, custody and visitation rights. Other issues that can be ironed out in mediation include tax liabilities and complicated financial issues such as jointly held pension funds.
What is a mediator’s role?
A divorce mediator is someone who will ensure that lines of communication are constantly fostered throughout the divorce process. The mediator will usually list the contentious issues involved in the break up, and develop discussions aimed at reaching solutions that keep both parties happy. This may involve brainstorming ideas, encouraging empathy and trying to find common ground from which to develop a consensus.
Divorce mediation relies on complete neutrality, so both parties must be in agreement before it can commence. A mediator’s primary responsibility is to keep both you and your partner involved in an open line of communication, which is the only way you will both be able to walk away from the marriage without causing each other further anguish and distress.
What are the benefits of divorce mediation?
Many marriages end because of lost trust and anger, and that can lead to a bitter and drawn out dispute in the courts. There are no winners in these situations. Divorce mediation can drastically reduce the amount of time you and your partner spend arguing over the minutiae of a separation. Dealing with the issues on a face-to-face basis will speed up your divorce, potentially saving you both significant legal fees.
Children take divorce very badly, and their suffering can be exacerbated if a divorce becomes particularly protracted and bitter. A mediator will be there as the voice of reason, reminding you both of how your divorce might be affecting your children. A mediator will be emotionally removed from the situation, which will help you and your partner to make rational decisions that benefit everyone involved.
Most divorces turn ugly because direct lines of communication are completely cut. Mediation is not about apportioning blame, legal arguments or point scoring; it is about bringing you and your partner together to work through your disagreements, and it is an opportunity to take control of your own future.
The legal framework for divorce law in the UK is complex and wide-ranging. Only by having the expert assistance of a divorce solicitor at your disposal can you be sure that your interests are being represented effectively. Contact us today to see how Wiseman Lee can help you with your situation.